Ok so this one is for the shamens out there, no modern medicine has been able to help, so here it is. When ever I am date a new girl, or in my current case with my fiancee away at school, when I havent seen her for a while I have sever pain in my genitals. Now modern medicine has explained this and I totally believe the explination, my body gets excited and the muscles surrounding that area contract really tightly. Has anyone else ever had this problem or now how to make it less sever? The doctors said I would just out grow it, but being that I am now 21 and it hasnt gotten any better. Thanks!
Phoenix [oops]

Nobody... nobody at all?????? Im the only weirdo here? [frown]

You're not a weirdo sweetie. I dated a guy that had that problem.
His doctor told him that it could be as simple as a lack of water. If you expell too much fluid then spams may occurs or cramps.
Or if you try to hold back a climax it could occur as well.
Try an ice bag or even "releasing" lol more often may help as well.
Tell me if any of that works.
I work in an ER so I'll ask around as well.

you might try not thinking so much about what you want to do with the girl. you get yourself all worked up and im sure you have heard the term that describes your condition so i dont need to mention it. as far as it going away with age, it will but not for a few more years. just try not to think so much about the sex thing. if its that bad you may have to take maters in hand.

i appriciate your responses, the strange or maybe not so strange since everyone knows the statistics, im not conciously thinking about sex a vast majority of the time. I have been told that advil or tylenol would help and it does a little, yes i have heard the term and i specifically didnt mention that because i know there are several interpritations of that term. thank you all again for the responses.

I hope that you don't mind me popping in, but I am the mother of a ten year old boy who has very freely told me about his genital issues, I do ask for help from his dad & step dad, because I am a woman and have not personally experienced his physical issues. However even though there are male bodies & female bodies, mature people realize that we are all connected & bodies are natural. There is nothing to be ashamed of & most everybody has the same issues. And whether you are a man or a woman, girl or boy, we will all go through embarrasing & possibly tramatic situations with our bodies.
Your stage of life is one of procreation. The desire and need to procreate is normal, necessary & keeps civilization alive. This same life force can be channeled in may ways. Although, I had a friend that at your age that ran 5 miles a day, did martial arts & still couldn't manage his mo jo!
I also had a boyfriend at about your age that I had to hide from now & the to get rest! Hang in there - we are all a work in progress. This too shall pass in time. (Then we might be discussing Viagra - Just another perspective!) Mother love - Leonie

Okies, here's my two cents. I've had times when I've gotten spasms like that with my little girl. I found it helped that when I knew I was going to see my partner to take a nice warm bath and "ease" the tension a bit first. A bit of damiana oil helps to make easing the problem soo much more fun too! [wink][evil]

I hope I don't embarrass you, but this could be caused from sexual tension. Are you pleasuring yourself? Or do you wait for that special moment with her? Pleasuring yourself can help a great deal with built up "pressure". Also, pay attention to when and where it hurts. The penis is consisted of several different muscles, and if you stroke or bend it in the wrong way it could pull one of these muscles. But in your case I really believe that it's sexual tension. Try self-pleasure, meditation, excercise, anything to calm and relax you.

Hope this works!!!