A very good friend of mine came to me in the hopes of getting some solid advice and I was lost as to what to say to her. Â*Maybe I can get some input here to pass on to her?
Her husband comes off as Mr. American. Â*Only interested in sports, etc. Has always claimed quite loudly that he wont go to a strip club. Â*Doesnt like certain dirty jokes cause he says they are gross. Â*He has even taken the liberty to reprimand me for telling this joke....
a little girl and her daddy go to a barber shop for dad to get a haircut. Â*he is in the chair and she is standing next to him eating a snack cake. Â*the barber says to her...sweetie, you will hair on your twinkie. Â*and she replies.. i know! and I will get boobs too!
I thought it was funny and this guy says I dont like jokes like that about little girls because they are porno. Â*I was shocked. Â*I said, well, everybody grows up, you know. Â*I just figured he should take the stick out because he doesnt even have kids and who did he think he was? Â*I also said, where is your head to make that comment? Â*And he said, oh never mind, just move on. Â*Drop it.
So this is him. Â*He is just above the fray, I guess.
So now his wife comes to me and she is shocked! Â*She tells me she found porno in a drawer that only he ever uses. Â*She says...not Playboy, not even Penthouse...raunchy stuff.
I wanted to laugh but she is shaking. Â*What am I suppose to say to her?
I told her he has always been cheap about certain things so maybe he wanted to buy the better porn but just wouldnt shell out the money so he ended up with this. Â*Of course she looked at me as though I had just grown horns. Â*Told her I'd get back to her but, honestly, I dont know what to say.
A little help here please?
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Human Beings are very complex creatures, and you Know that Volumes have been written on Sexuality. It is extremely possible to be repulsed and at the same time fascinated. (As I am with Political Left Wingers!) I don't think it is anything for Anyone to get their knickers in a twist over... use it as a way to Talk about the subject. Wasn't it Freud who said "The only abnormal sex is NO sex" ? [wink]

So now his wife comes to me and she is shocked! Â*She tells me she found porno in a drawer that only he ever uses. Â*She says...not Playboy, not even Penthouse...raunchy stuff.

Oh my, well seems like the secret is out. Other then this, how is their relationship? If their marriage is loving and solid this may only be a little bump in the road. Now if it were me, I would most likely cut out all the faces in the magazine and replace them with faces of pigs, just to let him know the magazine was discovered.
I am wondering just what kind of porno magazine was it?

LINN wrote: It is extremely possible to be repulsed and at the same time fascinated. (As I am with Political Left Wingers!)

Isnt it funny I feel exactly the same about Political Right Wingers, lol.

LadyLor wrote:
LINN wrote: It is extremely possible to be repulsed and at the same time fascinated. (As I am with Political Left Wingers!)
Isnt it funny I feel exactly the same about Political Right Wingers, lol.

Well, I'm not repulsed or fascinated with Political Right Wingers, I just don't understand WHY anyone would want to be one. [lol]

And, I do agree with LINN that human beings are complex creatures. Sex can also be a complex thing for many people with emotional, physical, and even spiritual issues involved.

It's possible that this guy enjoy porns but maybe doesn't want to admit it to others or even to himself. It could be shame or guilt that makes him give what he thinks are socially "acceptable" negative responses to dirty jokes or discussions of strip clubs.

As for his wife, she should decide whether she's going to ignore the magazines altogether or mention them to him. I personally don't have a problem with porn. I happen to enjoy it in its proper time and place. I also don't have a problem with my significant other enjoying porn either, with or without me present. But, we happen to have a healthy and active sex life, as well. So, if the wife feels neglected sexually or that their sexual relationship is inactive or unhealthy in some way, then she may have some cause for concern. But, if everything's fine with their sexual relationship, then what's the problem? And by the way, what was she doing in a "drawer that only he ever uses?" Snooping perhaps?

he probably uses the porn to rub one out too.
those who act if they are better than porn or don't like dirty jokes or dirty stuff are usually the biggest perv's ever,they just don't know how to deal with it,either they were taught as a child that all things sexual are nasty,wrong, against god or sex shouldn't be pleasuable but only for having kids or what ever.
but WTF do i know,i spew dirty pervy stuff 24/7...i am very sexual dude and don't and won't hide it.
But those who act like "prudes" are super freaks.(usually)

[quote]thelma6954 wrote:

Well, I'm not repulsed or fascinated with Political Right Wingers, I just don't understand WHY anyone would want to be one.

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because it is the better path.

thelma6954 wrote:

Well, I'm not repulsed or fascinated with Political Right Wingers, I just don't understand WHY anyone would want to be one.

LordDuke wrote:because it is the better path.

Maybe for you is it, but most definitly not for me, never was and never will be. But thank the Gods we have the freedom in this country to be able to debate, disagree with or support the candidate of our choice. Â*

serpanese...I just got a book from a friend that had two of the same book ~
so now I have the time to do this ~
the book is Ageless Body Timeless Mind by Deepak Chopra
page 229 is almost blank in the book so I am going to go with page 125 ~
I just opened the book and saw the number on top ...so that is it!
thanks for info to do this ~ woohoo [lol]

Oh fate....please post your findings in the Dreams and Divinations forum? Â*Thanks so much. Â*If you go there, you will see my results. Â*There wasnt much on my page 229 either but thats ok. Â*hey wait a minute.....u were not suppose to look at the page. [eek]now you be good.[lol][lol]

Its difficult to know what is up with this guy because she told me that they had a great sex life in the beginning but for the past 5 years or so, he doesnt touch her at all. Â*She said they have sex maybe 2-3 times a year![confused]and she always has to be the one to initiate it. Â*I asked what he said about it and she has no intention of confronting him. Â*I guess she has tried to talk about sex generally in the past and he blows her off. Â*No pun intended. ok....pun intended.
Love the advice about the pig faces.[dancing-banana]