Ok, this may sound strange to some, or oddly familiar, but do you think it's cheating if you engage in discussion in forums that include women posting in them as well? I know this sounds stupid...and as you can see I do it, but my wife goes to the extreme and tells me all the time that I've cheated in my heart with her. I don't believe that view for even a moment. Thoughts? Opinions? Is my wife TOO dramatic about "cheating?"
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"Do you think it's cheating if you engage in discussion in forums that include women posting in them as well?"

Heck no! Are we living in the Dark Ages or something? "Cheating," although I'm sure it's definition will vary from person to person and from relationship to relationship, has to do with touching/sharing sexual pleasure and intimacy with another person behind the back and without the knowledge/consent of someone else you're in a relationship with.

While I'm definitely guilty of joking around on these boards and bantering back and forth about spankings and sex toys with both males and females on CL, none of it is serious and it's all in fun. I'm totally comfortable with it, and my boyfriend, imacmike, is totally comfortable with it too. Why? Well, first and foremost because I would never be unfaithful to him. Second, I'm joking around and having and giving (I hope) a good laugh, that's all.

But, I've digressed from your original post regarding males and females merely engaging in conversation on a message board. Yes, I agree with you wholeheartedly that your wife "goes to the extreme" and her definition of "cheating" is overly dramatic, very prudish, and incorrect in my view. Behavior like that to me sounds like the quickest way to alienate someone and push them out the door. I'm wondering if she's had some negative experiences with boyfriends cheating on her in the past that have clouded her judgment and made her appear so jealous and unreasonable. By the way, with her attitude, you'd better stay FAR AWAY from the CL Love Train!![lol][lol]

I am with Thelma on this one.....

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Is she extreme in her views of your behaviors? I dont know, I suppose it would depend if you are posting things of a cybersex nature to other women, or having online flirtations..Or if you are exchanging cookie recipes and housecleaning tips.

I dont know you, so its impossible to say.

Did Thelma mention spankin's???[evil][lol]

Seriously, what you are talking about, DDF, sounds to me like your woman is insecure - if you think of a woman in a sexual way - then are you 'cheating'? If you happen to glance at a woman passing by, are you 'cheating'? If you go to a public forum and engage in conversation, are you 'cheating'? Sounds kinda extreme there.........

But then again, my husband allows me to have a boyfriend, so what do I know.....[bounce]

Carrieberrie wrote:
....But then again, my husband allows me to have a boyfriend, so what do I know.....

...and allows you to be a Dominatrix on a message board who liberally gives out spankings!! (Oops! Wait a minutes...you're a Dominatrix, so no one has to "allow" you to do anything!!) [lol][lol]

Anyway, I'm just joking around. DavidDarkfire, I don't mean to make fun of what I presume to be a serious post/topic on your part. Sometimes I just can't help myself cuz I'm such a baaaaaaaaad girl!! That's when I know I need a good spankin'!! [lol][lol][evil]

DavidDarkfire wrote:
do you think it's cheating if you engage in discussion in forums that include women

Hell no!

in·fi·del·i·ty
a. Unfaithfulness to a sexual partner, especially a spouse.
b. An act of sexual unfaithfulness.

This to me is cheating ~
What seems to be cheating to your wife sounds more like insecurity and major squeeze on you and the relationship....
It really is up to you and your wife on what your agreements are Dave ~ Maybe you should talk about it now that you have some input?

Thanks for the input from everyone, it's appreciated. Yes, she has major insecurity issues from past relationships, and NO I have never "cheated" or should I say been unfaithful to my wife.

I know that she takes things to the extreme, and her sister agrees with me...or at least until now. lol. You see, my dear wife, bless her heart, never let her sister know that I was not a Christian man. Oops, that one hit the fan...me pagan man! hear me croak! lol

It is hard sometimes, but it only seems that the "cheating" issues come up when I post on message boards like this...IE: anything to do with witchcraft, Witches, Pagans, Wiccans, etc. But...alas, that is another battle that I'm working on. I think the only reason she's been like this recently has been because her sister knows about my "dark" life...lol. Hey, I have to find humor in here somewhere, eh?

I've asked myself many times (did I mention MANY?), if her and I will stay together or not. When we first met, all was cool with our views, beliefs and whatnot. What I've discovered though is that she told people in her life (besides her sister), that she was going to "change" me to her ways. Well, as you can guess...it's not gonna happen in this lifetime! Am I being selfish wanting to stick to my beliefs that I've embraced and followed for the better part of 23 years of my life? Or do I "change" and become the good little Christian man sitting in church that is miserable for the rest of his life? Hmmmmm....I pick door #1 and am staying put with my views and beliefs as they are.

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thelma6954 wrote:
Sometimes I just can't help myself cuz I'm such a baaaaaaaaad girl!! That's when I know I need a good spankin'!!

And you know what comes next now, my dear Thelma............Assume the position!!![wink][evil][lol]

Dave, don't 'change' your religion just to make sombody else happy. Because once you 'cave' on one thing, then there will be another, and another, and another. I've seen too many of my friends go thru that, and I myself, have traveled down that road. Once you start giving up parts of 'yourself', there won't be anything left and in the end, you will just resent the person who asked you to 'change' to make them happy.