Ok, this is probably a deep subject, but here goes: If a family member has an out of control temper.....yells, screams in your face over nothing, and slaps their children around and throws them down..lies to manipulate everyone..basically puts everyone through hell..and refuses to seek help;..is it ok, to do a binding spell to bind them from hurting themself or anyone else? (see, told ya it was deep!!)....Blessings!

I would bind them from doing any harm, especially when children are involved, maybe be quite specific and think through how and what your words will be. Also asking for help and guidance - if you have a goddess ?

In regards to free well, if they are harming a child, especially if both the family member and the child were part of my close family then something needs to be done. Without any magical work, i.e. someone could report them, then free will would not come into it.

It really depends upon what is happening and if the child is in any danger and how far you are willing to go with this. For me if I cant do anything without spells or binding etc then I maybe would not do the spell. For example casting a spell to help someone, I would also offer support on a everyday or practical basis as well. However it does sound like you are offering support already.

thank you chatters it is a family member; and we have offered suport only to be dismissed; i was thinking the same way you are.....to bind her from doing any harm to the children or anyone else for that matter; she has quite the temper...thank you so much for posting....blessings to you.

As someone who was a child who was slapped around (and kicked, thrown, etc.) I suggest to do the spell. No child needs that, the scars last so very long.

Namaste.

if it was me i would try to handle it my self and put him in his place first...... maybe he just needs a reality cheack to realize that what he does hurts people and everyone around him... and if that doesnt work then i dont know if a binding spell will work for some one that stroung willed i would call and report them.....

By all means do the binding, but understand that a binding is a short term means to ease the situation so that it can be dealt with. The person on the receiving end of the beating needs to get their collective shit together and get out. The binding can allow the breathing space so that can happen. Please understand though, that the person that you are trying to help may not do anything until it is too late, and that the only way that they may realize that they absolutely must do something is if they 1) wind up in the hospital with the ever living snot kicked out of them, 2) lose their children to CPS or 3) die. It is unfortunate, but the 3rd one is the one that often happens.

thanks everyone for replying......i didn't mention this; but the "agressive" party; is my grown step daughter.....she seems to "pick" on the middle child more than the other two.....my husband and i performed a binding spell and are waiting patiently for results.......blessings all

Now that we're on the subject I have a question similar to this what if a person is hurting themself and wants to kill themself? I'm only asking this because I'm worried about him and our entire family specifically his son, wife, parents and even his brother. He's in jail right now, he's abused drug for a long time and he can't seem to stop. I would like to do a binding spell for him so he'll stop hurting himself and his family, I would also like to do a protection spell for the family. Problem is my family doesn't exactly believe in magick as far as I know I'm the only one that does. Any advice? Also I would not want to do the spell alone I would like someone to help me but I want everyone's opinion first. I've already lost 1 cousin to suicide, and a grandmother by natural causes my cousin's death is the last thing this family needs right now.

will I personaly think it would be ok, for i know one of my first sleeps was against cutting, but it was toward myself I was in a state of mind that one day I was soo up set with the world I wanted to die & I woul find myself in the bathtub with candles music playing because for the longest time music would make me feel better but it only worked for so long, then the knife came with me to the bathroom, then the next week I was scared of myself for I know I was so weak that there was a chance I would be in the bathtub with the knife agian. SO I cast a spell to protect me. weeks later I was in the bathtub & I swear to this day I try to put that blade through my arm & it didn't & wouldn't go deeper to do the harm I wanted to do. I still find that thought creeping in but I stronger now & that tells me the goddess & god gots more for me. I say if it all in good energy like the abuse in familys it isn't bad, or saving one from themselfs. Sometimes pple need us to show them the light we are the lord & ladies little angels on earth to guide each other. no ones perfect. we need others its in our nature. like the wolf needs its pack. hope this help thanks this made me feel so much better. I feel I help myself more than I help you. BB MerryYule

Magic is energy from yourself directed towards a specific manifestation in its most basic form. It does not matter if your friends or family or even the person you are directing the spell believes or use magic, it is YOUR ENERGY that matters. It is also not necessary to tell the target or your other people in the circle what you plan on doing. Physical or emotional abuse from a person is due to an upset/imbalanced emotional facet of that person's human spirit. It is almost always caused by "nurture" not "nature" unless there is a genetic condition such as bipolar disorder or schizophrenia for example. So in basic terms the person who is lashing out has or is getting downloaded with negative emotion from another source and is trying to get rid of that unwanted negative energy within themselves. While performing magic it is important to remember that you are trying to bring peace to the individual which will not be prohibitive in terms of Free Will, as you are simply trying to balance out their negativity. When I have worked in the past with these type of people I try and see if they will work with a crystal that can absorb the negativity, either a hand held or amulet type will work because they can carry it around with themselves. If they don't believe in magic just tell them it is a good luck charm and to carry it around so that it will draw positive things into their lives. This should be the intent of the spell placed upon it as well, to draw positive vibrations of energy into this person's life. Conversely you can make a talisman that will repel negative energies. In addition to the spell work emplaced upon the object the person who wears it, the person with the emotional problems, will have the added perception that someone cares about them to bolster their confidence and make them feel more positive about themselves. This is what is especially necessary for those people who feel lost and are contemplating hurting themselves. These people feel very lost, like nobody cares about them and that if they destroyed themselves it just wouldn't matter. By gifting them with an amulet made of hematite it just might be the type of sacred object that makes them think somebody cares and since they wear it, it will be a constant attractor of positive energies to help pump them up when they visually see it.

Besides this please realize that many people who are depressed have brain chemicals called synaptic transmitters that are out of whack. Simple ways to increase functioning are:

Increase exercise level to 30min cardio per 5 days.
Sit under extremely bright lights for at least 2hours per day.
Increase the number of orgasms/week.
Increase the amount of corn products in diet (not high fructose corn syrup) corn increases serotonin levels in the brain (which decrease during depressive brain dysfunction).
Stimulate your system herbally with hot peppers in diet.

All of these methods in combination can help to stimulate the person physically, which will help to offset the mental/emotional depressive characteristics.

hope this helps,
JB