how many of u did pot when u were younger? my niece has gotten into it and i don't know how to hadle it. I kno I did when i was younger...its not that im worried about being hypocritical but the only reason i quit was because one of my friends died while high.any help would be greatly appreciated

I did try it but as I'm not good at the whole smoking thing I never realy got anything out of it.
My 21 year old son (& most of his friends)uses "pot".
The way I think about it is that alot of under-age drinking goes on in my area & that seems to fuel a great deal of anti social behaviour.Smoking dope doesn't seem to have the same effect & in all the years I've been aware of the use of cannabis I don't know of anyone who has died as a direct result of using it.
Having said that I know that in some users it can trigger paranoia & can highlight a previously undiscovered mental or pschological problem.

I don't see the problem or what there is to handle personally. She is how old? The age when kids starts "partying" or "experimenting" varies. But if she is in the later years of HS or in College, I don't see any big deal in it.
Are her grades failing? Is she being irresponsible? Does she live with you?
Just make sure she stays safe. You might go as far as giving her a "place to hang out" so you know she isn't out there somewhere in dangers way.
When we were kids we had the garage. When we were young adults, right before my husband and I were married, he rented out his dads basement. It was like "That 70's Show" LOL
She is going to do it whether you like it or not. Try to remember being her age and just keep her safe. I would much rather see her smoking a little Cheeba that drinking. Know what I mean?

This problem could be removed as well as other bad habbit by Reiki healing. Hand position on forehead and back of head and symbols 1+2+1 with affirmation. Affirmation something like- this bad habbit is gone.

I think in this situation, although I've never done "pot", your niece is going to do what she likes no matter what you or anyone else says. But, and this is a big but, maybe you should ask her WHY? she's doing this. There could be certain things that she wants to forget or get away from, and you may want to talk to her about it. DO NOT sound parental...she'll just duck behind a facade and get an attitude to guard herself. So, try and ask her why she feels she needs pot. This could open her eyes to the reason why she's really smoking. I hope everything goes right!

Live Long, Learn Well, and Love Much.
-Kurt

Honestly, I've never tried it myself, so I don't have a vast knowledge base to speak from, but I hear a lot of kids get into it out of boredom.

Is there some way you can bond with your niece and spend quality time with her, maybe cultivating a hobby or something that you both enjoy? Bowling? Trivia board games? Nature walks?

It sounds a little "after-school special" but I believe it to be true; the more involved adults (parents, aunts/uncles, teachers, etc.) are in a kid's life, the less likely they are to resort to things like marijuana or drinking.

And then when you've gotten closer, maybe she'll open up to you and talk to you about what's on her mind, like Kurt suggested. And you can give her effective strategies for dealing with her problems, based on your life experience.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

Mamma_Willowe wrote: She is going to do it whether you like it or not. Try to remember being her age and just keep her safe. I would much rather see her smoking a little Cheeba that drinking. Know what I mean?

Same here, as long as she or her friends are not flavoring the herb. If you dont know what I mean by flavoring, it when you add things like coke, herion, meth to the herb to give it more of a kick.
Me and my first husband lived in my moms basement for a while, it was the 70's and we could have been the basis for the show

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LadyLor wrote:as long as she or her friends are not flavoring the herb. If you dont know what I mean by flavoring, it when you add things like coke, heroin, meth to the herb to give it more of a kick.

That is a very good point, and something I didn't think about. When we were kids some drank some smoked. That was about it, at least in my circle of friends. I remember to this day, how many kids died or were seriously injured in drinking and driving accidents. Also how many girls were being controlled and or abused by boyfriends who drank. Not all some were just your run of the mill a$$holes, but so many times I saw problems with the kids who drank. There were a couple of stoners who you knew were going no where fast as well. You knew they were probably lifers. But they weren't in the DD accidents or beating up anyone. That is why I mentioned smoking being a little better than drinking in my opinion... For the most part, it is a late HS early college "spread your wings and cut loose a little" party time. It is just part of that coming of age. Not everyone tries it but the majority of us have experimented with one thing or another.
Most of us out grow it.

Back to LadyLor's point...I don't know if you have read my blog on "Our Cauldron" but I posted all we wanted was a Broken Lizard weekend. It is was how my hubby and I were hanging out eating Chinese and watching movies, (it was no kid night) we kept hearing the neighbors door banging...long story short...I went to go give my bachelor neighbors grief for all the banging, they are friends and their door doesn't shut right, anyway, I heard voices so I peeked out my peek hole and there was a CSI team on my landing and in the fore mentioned bachelor pad! A boy(neighbors girl friends, younger brother) of 22 had died of Roxies...(sp?) I am guessing here at the spelling. They said he had enough in him to kill a bull elephant. But it is a mixture of Oxycontin and cocaine, they said he had been doing it for 36 hours.
That is the point, I am not trying to freak you out or alarm you, but LadyLor is right, the big drugs and the mixing of substances can be lethal.

Talk to her, be open and receptive. Not judgemental. Let her tell you things in confidence. If it is something to worry about you can act, but if it is just a little experimenting don't react to it too harshly. If you do she will clam up, then that door of communication is closed and you won't be there to hear the really important or "red flag" things. Should they occur.

how old is your neice? i use to smoke pot daily since i was 14...smoked till i was 18....one of the people you'd never expect honestly....kids smoke it for various reasons....one reason i smoked it for long was for the relaxing high it gave, something to ease the mind and body....You hear more bad things about it than good but there is some reasearch to prove its not as bad as they say...sometimes its a phase, or a social fad....other times its an escape from the world or to relax....depending on how close you are sit her down and ask her why she does it...worst thing you'll get is a cold shoulder.....feel free to ask questions away

I would much rather see my boys smoke pot, which they do than drink. Alcoholism runs very heavy on both sides of thier family's thats why I don't drink much. Alcohol and my kids does not mix well with MOM, and my boys are full grown.[eek][lol]