hi. i saw your post in the other thread but was unsure how to respond as im really new to all this. as far as your head being full i find it helpful to keep a journal, i know i sleep better after writing pressing thoughts in a journal b/c it helps to clear my mind. friends of mine have had the same experience. i understand being busy and it being hard to find time for yourself but having time for yourself has to be one of your priorities in life, it is so important to stay true to yourself, otherwise everything will fall apart or feel out of balance. i dont know who you should ask for particular concerns but i strongly believe that if u just take some time to relax meditate/write in journal you will find stuff will start to fall into place. (writing in a journal is like meditating to me) well thats just my 2cents, hope it helps!!!
well i would suggest either stealing some time for yourself in the morning before they get up or after they go to bed, if that is not possible perhaps you could get a babysitter for a couple hours one day of the week just so you can go do something alone, like go for a walk or someting....just a suggestion!
Great topic, I'm gonna jump in too!
One auther I have found extremely helpful for me in quiting my mind is Christopher Penczak, his book The Inner Temple Of Witchcraft and the cd set that go with it are great guids to meditation. CL sells the cd set, I didnt check if they sold the book too, but Im sure they do. I have only been involved with the book for a couple of days, but I feel my entire attitude on life has changed for the better. Hope that helps!
starr77, many of us are or have been mothers, so we can identify with the lack of quiet time and privacy you have. It's extremely hard to find a moment to yourself for anything personal, and it's hard to turn off the "Mom" and just be yourself after having busy, rushed days.
But, if you choose to make it so, spirituality is something that is very important. It "feeds" and uplifts your soul, heart, mind and spirit. So, like anything important and of value, you need to somehow find a way to make time for it. This doesn't mean you have to take a chunk of time each and every day. It can be something as simple and brief as 5 minutes during the day, or finding a way to have an hour or two to yourself sometime during the weekend. The main thing is that you don't want to look at finding the time as a chore, or beat yourself up if you don't get around to devoting anytime during a particular day. You want to look forward to this, not dread it. But, you do have to find the right moments.
I don't know your daily schedule, but I'm sure if you take a good look at it, you'll come up with some way to manage some minutes to yourself. It might mean getting up a few minutes earlier than you usually do, or staying up later when you do after the kids go to bed. It might mean having your husband or friend or family member watch your children for an hour or two every couple of weeks so that you can spend some time reading and researching, or checking out New Age sections in the local book store, listening to music, spending time outdoors or time in meditation. It might mean not going on the computer on certain days and taking that time that you'd normally spend online. If your children are young enough for naps or old enough to go to school, there may be times when you have to let the housework slide for an hour and use that time for yourself. I'm sure there are many ways you can find brief moments.
As for your head being "full of garbage" and needing to quiet your mind, I'd recommend trying to spend a few moments relaxing all your muscles and letting your thoughts roam. If you have trouble with that, if you have a personal CD player, put on headphones and pop in something quiet and instrumental. Just sit, close your eyes, listen to the music and let your mind wander without thinking of things you have to do tomorrow and things of that nature. Even just 10 minutes of doing this will calm your breathing, your blood pressure and your heart rate. Just doing this and then thanking the Goddess for giving you this quiet time is a ritual in itself. You could also go sit outside under the shade of a tree during the day or under the stars at night for a few moments.
As for knowing who to ask, it depends on what Pagan religion you're following. If you're Asatru, you might call on Thor or Freya. If you're Wiccan, and you don't have particular names for the Goddess and God that means anything significant to you, just thank the God and Goddess. You don't need any particular names because when you speak to Them, They know it. As you follow your path, you may come across names for the Goddess and God in your reading that appeal to you and feel right using, or you might just continue to use the "generic" terms God and Goddess. It's whatever feels right for you.
Ok My husband & i had a great long talk last night & i came to the realization that the 1 eyed deomon (tv) is over powering my life. We are renting to own a 55in & when the kids go to bed i watch it. it's there so i do it .well i am having them come get it monday after work. im triing to live spiritually in a mundane world & it's not working. So i put all my proities in line & i found it. Because i love the way i feel when i am in the "spirit". I let it slip away for a while & now that you are all helping to reasure myself, i need it back, so thank you all very much, my life appreciates it :-)