[smile]WOW Lexie!! Â*What a BEAUTIFUL idea! Â*My daughter and I are very close and she's been asking a lot of questions. Â*I try to answer as honestly and gently as I can. Â*She's only 8, but that time comes quickly. Â*I've been trying to figure out what I could do for her that would make this time special and to make sure she was comfortable and happy with her changes. Â*I can't thank you enough for sharing such a beautiful experience! Â*

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BCristea:

It's never to late to make a connection with your daughter. There is no hard and fast rule about everything having to happen on exact days or specific times. Go and check your feminine products stash...see just how much time there will be before you have to purchase new supplies. Buy/make a necklace and when it's time to go restock - both of you play hookie, go shopping, have a nice lunch, just make a special time that's for you and her. Give her the necklace or whatever you decide might represent not only her change from a child to a young adult, but your special bond. Let her know what the necklace represents and let her know you love her, understand what she's going through and you support her. It's never to late to say "I love you".

Lexie Marie

[frown]That's really sad that her mother cusses at the children and won't spend any quality time with them. The cussing and yelling, in my book, is a form of abuse. A lot of children suffer from emotional abuse which causes low self-esteem and emotional problems. This ends up effecting their school work, social behavior and it can have lasting effect on up into adulthood. Most children that have treated like this will continue the pattern with their own children and thus the cycle repeats itself. It really isn't any different than physical abuse. It just leaves the bruising and scars on the inside rather than the outside.
It may well be that she is also playing you. Even very young children know how to play parents, divorced parents and step-parents against each other to achieve what they desire. This is the reason that she says she wants her Mom when you tell her no. She thinks well, if they aren't going to give into my every whim and desire then I am just going to go home. She probably does her Mom the same way. She probably threatens her Mom with coming to your house if she doesn't get what she wants.
Children are very smart and they learn to plot at a very young age. Even an infant knows that if he/she cries someone will eventually pick them up.

Wow. My mom a was trying to do a ceremony for me and teach us wicca but I was taken from her for a while so unfortinatly we didnt get to. First off court is hard and if the mother can do all that for doing so little on everyone's part maybe you should wait a while, stay in silence with her and dont tell her mother, or do an inititation ceromony instead?