So...I'm 18, single, very unstable job, no place of my own, no doctor, no money...and a pregnancy test just said that in nine months I'm going to be a mommy. I don't know how to tell the daddy, or any one really. And I have no idea what I'm supposed to do to keep the little life that is very likely growin inside me safe, healthy, and happy. Any thoughts? I could use all the help I can get really.

Hi Audrian,

You should definitely tell the father and gauge his responsibility that he wants to assume. He should be willing at 18 to be ready to work and support you, otherwise you will have to go to family and friends. It is important during pregnancy to have a good roof over your head so you should tell your parents so that you can live with them until at least the birth of your child if the father will not support you. IF family is not an option you can try friends or others that currently support you. Don't panic, everything will be ok, bringing a baby into this world is a wonderful fulfilling experience.

peace,
JB

Pregnacy is such a powerful thing, it changes your body in ways that you never would have imagined, eventhough you'll read all of the books and "know" what to expect. The energy is so different, the pull of the Moon so intense, you will literally feel amazing one moment, and be crying the next.

You do have options though, and as unpleasant as some may be to some people, it's good to look at things (regardless of what they are) from a broad, objective place. So, things to consider:
1: You can keep the baby
2: you can put it up for adoption
3: you can have an abortion

Keeping the baby will be difficult, especially if the father panics and won't man up to his responsibility. Giving the baby up for adoption makes things easier, but you do still have to go through the pregnancy and labor. And, afterwards, you may decide to keep the baby afterall. And lastly, it is early enough for you to have an abortion. Granted, medical abortions are insanely expensive and they can cause complications later on if you decide to conceive again. Herbal abortions are a little bit easier, but this is not something you can do yourself: you must consult someone with extensive herbal knowledge (ie Master Herbalist, Naturopath, some Midwives) to pick the right choice of herbs for you and the proper dosage.

Regardless of what you decide, you really should speak to the father, though, This child is just as much his as it is yours and deciding what to do is just as much his responsibility as well.

If you decide to keep the baby, as a mother of three, I must wish you Congratulations! And tell you that, as scary as it all is, it truly is worth it in the end (eg the first time the babe says "mommy" or how the wee one might say "i lala" for "I love you." My 1 year old does this, as did my 3 year old, and it gets me every time!)

Best of Luck, we're here for you if you need us,
Dami

Update: Not preggers. Turns out it was just stress and having moved in with another female. But thank you both for the advice, I will most definitely file that away as "Things to Keep in Mind"