Selene Lilitu wrote:
It's true that it may be something he has to work out with his mom...but if it gets bad enough it might just be that his mom's a little psycho!

Seriously...I thought Alex's mother loved me...the minutes we got engaged, sh*t hit the fan and she started talking about me like I was a slut, or accusing alex of not being proud of his race(we're an interracial couple)...anything she could find to cause trouble. She didn't come to our wedding, and neither did her brother, Alex's uncle.

WE understand that she's a little crazy and very controlling, and he just ignores it. He still visits her and helps her with money and ignores her comments...if it gets offensive he'll defend me because he knows his mom is grasping at straws and being nasty and unfair.

For the most part now she's just frustrated and complacent because she realizes that nothing will get the better of us. We're expecting another flare when our baby is born...she'll find things to poke at about the child or how I care for the child..she'll find things wrong with the way I rbeastfeed or change diapers, and I'm sure it will get offensive at times. But we're prepared! and it will eventually settle down once she realizes that won't get a rise out of us either

I think it might be that shes a little psycho!!
When me and Dave first met, his mum wasnt that keen on me, apparently she thought her soon could do better and that the age gap would be a problem! Bear in mind that when we met he was 21 and I was 19 almost 20! Not that much of a difference!
Then she got to know me a bit better and we started having a laugh with each other and getting on pretty well!
When we got engaged, my family were delighted, but she didnt say anything, not a congratulations or anything!!
His dad was happy about it though![grin]

I guess she just doesnt like her sons having partners.... She can be really bitchy about her other sons wife to, again saying that he can do better! I guess its just in her nature to be like this. I will really try not to rise to it, and hopefully she will calm down in time! [grin]

By the way, Congratulations Selene! When is your baby due? x

Thank PebbleS! I'm due nov 7. [dancing-banana]


A Lot of the time it's that a mother never thinks any one is good enough for their little boys. And sometimes, there's an actual jealousy a mother can get from no longer being the only woman in her son's life, and that jealousy can breed a fair amount of dislike, and in some cases hatred, for the poor girl in question.

Selene Lilitu wrote:
Thank PebbleS! I'm due nov 7.


A Lot of the time it's that a mother never thinks any one is good enough for their little boys. And sometimes, there's an actual jealousy a mother can get from no longer being the only woman in her son's life, and that jealousy can breed a fair amount of dislike, and in some cases hatred, for the poor girl in question.

I can understand why some mums do get a bit jealous, especially if the mother and son are close, and Dave and his family were all really close at one point... until girlfriends came along lol!
They do say theres nothing like a mothers love though and I guess thats true!!

Do you know if your having a boy or girl, or do you wanna keep it a `surprise`?

We find out on monday 15th.

[grin] Cool!!!