How can u tell if a man lies to u about being in love w/ u?
This guy I am "pretty sure" exploited me for a kisses and hugs and left me immediately after he had gotten what he had wanted.
Although there were other complications involved w/ this which may have caused him to "flee the scene".
He is now back with his ex gf whom my friend told me the only reason he was w/ me tht he was on a "break w/ her" whom I am sure he isn't too fond of due to him complaining about her 24/7 (not just w/ me but with his co-workers, friends, ect.) I do not understand or can comprehend this at all, nor his actions.

Generally, when a guy does something like this, he's only looking out for himself and he's really only out to have fun.

I don't know the specifics but from what I have read, it sounds as thought you're pretty young. Heartbreak, as horrible as it is, come to us all, and it generally teaches us valuable lessons, if we're alert enough to see them and learn them.

He sounds like a jerk. I don't know what happened, but it seems to me you're better off without him. Cry, be angry and sad, and then, eventually, you'll start to feel better and you'll move on. Look back on what happened, be honest about what you could have done differently, take your lessons to heart, and you'll be happier and healthier for it.

As for knowing when someone is being truthful...there is no hard and fast way to know. Unfortunately, in order to truly enjoy the beauty of love, you have to trust, and you have to make yourself vulnerable, which puts you in the perfect position to get hurt really bad. But there is no way to truly love and be loved without trust and vulnerability.

There is a Sure Fire way to know if a Guy is Lying: Look at his Lips. If they are Moving............... He is Lying.
Now, Obviously, if he is Typing/Texting, its his Fingers.

Really, its not what a person SAYS. It is what s/he Does.

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I normaly can tell through people eyes if their lieing how I don't know, It's just the differents in them it changes in some way it's hard 2 explain I say watch the eyes. But he sounds like nothing but trouble!

ya know...keep it simple
if you can't understand his actions or if your "bs" meter goes off...it's time to get that person out of your life.
honesty is simple and straightforward.

He sounds like my X. Beware of a guy who goes around bitching about his girlfriends behind their backs. He's probably sneaking around on more than one of them.
Remember what I told all my children
"When God created men She was only kidding". [nonsense]
The Nice guys out there aren't always the cleverest or handsomest at first glance, but they are worth looking for. Take your time.

Conjurewise wrote:
....The Nice guys out there aren't always the cleverest or handsomest at first glance, but they are worth looking for. Take your time.

Those are some wise words, Conjurewise. I agree 100%.

Men will tell you what you want to hear and usually they don't want you to know to much abt them cause their afraid that you might use their weeknesses against them.As stupid as it seems if you have the pshchplocicly divulge into another it's not worth it.They should love u 4 u not what their ambitions are of what they can get out the relationship for their own selfish needs.Fuck him.Be your own girl and love u for u.Thats more attractive to others than you might realize

Chances are if a guy complains about his ex all the time. He isn't over her. Especially if it is a fresh break up. Unfourtunately you were just a rebound. Chalk it up to another life lesson. As far as knowing if someone is being truthful.... their body language,like the wandering eyes, fidgeting are some indicators, and also listen to little things in their voice. If it is typed or texted... if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is. May the Goddess fill your heart with love and healing energy.