Hello everyone! Well I am pregnant and due in October! I am happy but a little tired. I took 3 home tests and they were all positve. I took 3 because I couldn't believe it. Went to the doctors and that test was positive. So when I have the energy I need to clean out my home office to make way for the babies room. This is going to be my first child and well I feel like jumping for joy . I have not told my mother because she already said she would disown me for having a baby out of wedlock. Well my wedding is going to be late this year. I have not told her that either. When should I tell her? We have not really had a good mother daughther relationship.
[dancing-banana]

JNissa wrote:
When should I tell her? We have not really had a good mother daughther relationship.

Congratulations ! Your Profile states that you are 23... which is a good age to Have Your Own Life. I can only advise you to Speak the Truth and let the chips fall where they may. I would not offer an Apology for when you tell her; show her the Joy. It is her attitude she needs to adjust.

People often react in the way that we expect them to react, not because that's how they genuinely feel, but because they want to live up to the expectations of others (no matter whether those expectations are positive or negative!) When you go to your mother, don't go in shame. After all, there's nothing to be ashamed of! If you go with joy and happiness, with the expectation that she should share it, chances are she won't react to the news as severely as she would if you went expecting to be chastised.

For example, say "Guess what? You're going to be a Grandmother!!! Isn't that great?!" instead of "Uh... I have something to tell you... now don't be mad at me..."

Showing that you're an adult who has taken control of her life rather than a child who can't care for herself. Providing a balanced home without the possibility of becoming unstable is probably what your mother is worried about more than any moral presumption. Just be confident, and if she still rejects you and your baby, then she's not a positive influence to have in your child's life.

Be strong, you can do it!

Congrats, JNissa!!!

Ditto to what LINN and Ashfire said.

You're an adult, and you're thrilled that you're pregnant. You're in a stable relationship. You make your own money and you are taking care of yourself.

Whenever you feel strong enough, go to your mom as a woman in control of her own life, make no apologies for being pregnant, but show her how happy you are that you're welcoming a little one.


When in October are you due?

Congrats honey!! I too agree with everyone else, but most of all keep ypourself healthy and try real hard to keep your stress low. Again CONGRATS!!!

Well I told her. At first she wasn't happy. but now she says she happy but sad. She did say no one can buy the bassinet. That she is buying it so I guess she will come around. Thank you for all the advice. [grin]

Great honey! As a grama Although I didn't want my boys rushing into fatherhood I was so happy to have my grandbabies!!! Its an awesome feeling!!

Congratulations! It sounds like it worked out.

Well I am due in October and I am having a little boy. [smile]

Cool Congrats A Boy![grin] Any names yet?