Merry Meet beach,

Personally my little brother, my step dad, and I are going through the same thing. Do you know why each of them are mad? If not you should take them aside and ask. Cussing? Doll I agree that maybe that isn't right on either side. I dont really have a lot of advice becuase I am still in my situation but I hope that your's will soon be solved.[grin] btw have you tried runes for advice?

Merry Part
Essence

hey ya'll,
I hear ya on blending families...I'm still working on that now. But when it comes down to an adult & a six year old cussing and fussing like that, I think I agree with Judy on the jealousy deal.
Not just your son, but your hubby too!
You need to step back out of the middle being the go between trying to make nice-nice to keep the peace, but step into to the middle and lay down the law and tell them this will not continue. (Did that make sense??) I mean to say that you need to sit them down and tell them how you feel...don't make them feel defensive by pointing a finger and saying you do this wrong and you are doing that wrong. Tell them in a way that they will realize what they are doing is hurting you, let them know how their behavior is hurting you as a mother, a wife and as a person...
I do believe they love you and do not want to hurt you but are having a hard time in coming to terms with sharing you. Adult men can sometimes act just as silly as little boys when it comes to their insecurities the biggest difference is with being taller they can throw their weight around more. It may be also that your little boy is defensive and arguing because he feels "he's not my dad he can't tell me what to do." Been there...done that!
I also agree with the idea of counseling...let them know that counseling is not an option. This is your home and your family too...you have the right to have peace in it.
Just my humble opinion...
Hunny[oops]

well....i agree with the family counseling, or at least getting some help from somebody that can be objective about the situation. im sure w/ your background in psychology you are aware of all the troubles that come along w/ blending families for all parties involved. im also sure you are aware of child development patterns. i personally think it helps to have an objective point of view b/c maybe they will be able to notice things that you cannot (love is blind afterall) --- it isn't really the same situation but my roommates daughter and i do not get along either, we dont fight or anything, its mostly that she just irritates me, i find having space and time to myself is the best thing! maybe your husband and son just need time alone and away from each other to figure things out....i dont know ..... good luck!!!! i am curious though -- did they have problems before you were married? did u all talk about any of this before the wedding? i know my mom was remarried when i was a kid and she never asked my brother or i how we felt about it and we both have some resentment towards her for that b/c neither of us liked the guy (luckily she came to her senses and left him eventually) anywho! i hope it all works out, just please TALK to each other!!!!!