Telling Family?

[ally]

Ok. So over the past 6 months or so my best friend and I have managed to fall in love. We didn't discover we both felt the same until a few days ago, and we are together now, and planning to be handfasted (we have lived together this whole time). Well, the few friends we have told so far a very supportive, and I think the coven and most of our other friends will be really supportive as well, BUT I'm worried about our families. They already think our relationship is odd (she is 45, I'm 20, we bought a place together). And both our families took the fact that we are witches hard... We just don't know how they will take this, any suggestions in ways to tell them? TIA!
~Mab/Ally~

[raven_silverleaf]

Hi and merry meet! Â*Going from my own experience as a lesbian, the best way is to just be honest and up front. Â*I thought that I was fooling my family by being in the closet and even marrying a man. Â*But when the inevitable divorce came and my finally coming out, my whole family's response was "It's about time!" Â*Most of the time our greatest fears are unfounded, and do not come to pass. Â*You both know you families best. So go according to what both of you feel most comfortable with, whether you have them meet at a restraunt, and you all dine together,or you have a family gathering. Tell them with love and kindness and be ready to hear well meant advice. Â*You will need to have a thick skin here, if the relations are opinionated. Â*Just know that your union is blessed and both keep your chins up![wink] Raven[grin]

[ally]

Well, we told her family, have not told mine yet, (don't really ever see mine, so not in too big of a rush:-) ) Well, we told her sister first, it was just the three of us in the car, and she said she already knew! So then we called her mother, she had the same response. And we told her daughter last night, same thing,,, !!! We found it quite amusing. We also told our teachers and they knew tooo! So, everyone knew, but no one said anything (including ourselves). And everyone is okay. They said it's just not a normal situation for a woman to meet a girl at school, they become best frieds and inseperable, the girl moves in with her (in a crazy situation) and stays, and then they buy a home together... so... I guess I can see where they are coming from! I just think it's great that everyone is ok with it! (Except my ex-boyfriend, that didn't go well :0( )

[JayneBond]

That is so great the way your friends and family handled the situation. It shows how tolerance is increasing in our society. Yours is definitely the best story (positive). I wish mine was like that.

peace,
JB

[Adiana]

I have to say that to be honest and upfront is always the best way to approach such an emotionally-d situation as coming out can be at times. I came out last June because I could not take being in the closet anymore. When I told my family, some of my family members were understandably confused since I have been married twice and widowed both times. I also have children from both marriages as well. Surprisingly enough, my youngest brother had already figured out I was gay and he told me so! LOL! Anyway, I am hoping that the rest of my family members that are having a hard time with me coming out as a lesbian will eventually be accepting of my coming out.

Adiana

[DemonicPsychosis]

I agree that being upfront is the way to go. They'll either be supportive or not supportive, but you're their child, and one way or another they'll end up having to deal with it, because you are the way you are.