Happily Stunned

[Magpiebard]

I think I might require a few VERY stiff drinks to get my brain wrapped around this, bt I thought I would share this with my friends before I stumble out to find the vodka tree.

On a recent phaone call with my mother the movie Brokeback mountain was mentioned... and then (with my stomach clenching as momma dearest doesn't know either my religious preference or the fact that if given a chance in school I would have introduced her to both my boyfriends and my girlfirends) onto a discussion about homosexuality.

Now mom is a born and bred dyed in the wool southern baptist woman with some real problems with gay men. (In her defense? Let us just say that the movie BM Â*was hard for her to even hear about... because she lived the flip side of it in her life. Several men in the extended family have decided their true orientation late in life... and then walked way leaving the woman -literaly- holding the baby. So, while I don't agree with her.. I can understand from a personal standpoint why it hurts her) but out of nowwhere she says, rather quietly... "I think I might be wrong about something."

Now that in itself is huge [grin]. But she went on to explain that she had been watching a show that had discussed how there are some (not all) boys and girls who one can see from childhood are not going to be straight. One mother of twin boys (now 11) one very into "boy" things. Cars, wrestling, and football cover his walls. The other? Not so much. For idnetical twins... they even (in her view) moved different. What struck her was the mother replying to the question -so when did you start to think your son might be gay? She shrugged and said 18 months. (Now I'm not sure how anyones sexual oriantation can be noted at that age.. I'm just reporting what the show said) She went on to say that she was NOT thrilled about it, but she had to take some time and come to the decision that she could just let him be... just love him as is and not try and "turn him" or she could run the risk of having him hate himself and her for years by forcing him to think he was wrong somehow. His twin brother, when asked how he flet about his brother not likeing girls just said "I love him, he's my brother." With (apparently) a look on his face as if to add "duh."

Mom got kinda quiet about that part for a minute. She asked waht I thought about it. I told her that it was one of my big problems with the church anymore. Having the thought that "God is Love" but also telling people that for the way they come out... for who they love... for just the simple way they are made... they are worthless and damned? Uh.... no? If you tell someone that if that if they find someone that they love with all their hearts but they happen to have the wrong thing inside their shorts God will turn his face from them forever? That the only way to "redeem" themselves is to deny who and what they are and be miserable and alone for their entire lives? It doesn't work.

She listen for the first time and them said something I never thought would come out of her mouth.

"I think that I really need to rethink all this. My God Â*IS love, and I don't think he would view children like that. I.. have been very wrong, haven't I? I think I've let the pain in the past cause me to act in a way I'm not very proud of."

Shocked stunned silence on my end of the phone.

I guess there really IS always hope for people to chnage and move forward.

[smile]

Course... for the next few weeks? Everyone watch out for those flying pigs... those suckers are nasty!

[Lavender_Moonhawk]

Tehe! That's wonderful!

[WingedAset]

i would say that is perfectly beautiful. who says miracles don't happen anymore? cheers to your mom!