Trully Bi?

[Wolftears]

I've considered myself bi since about 15, seeing as i'm attracted to both men and women. I work with three lesbians, one thinks that most people aren't really bi, it's just like the in thing to do. So what makes someone a true bi?

[Autumnrain37]

I dunno I believe people can be bi and truely bi is your certainity just lke being an old soul being a witch.. you simply are* [dancing-banana]

[WingedAset]

i am bi and i see it as the simple love of humanity. i'm attracted to both men and women because i feel things deeper than the body. i actually call myself a "people person'. thats my "label"

[Artemis_NYC]

You should check out some of the responses in the Ask-A-Lesbian post...some of this is covered.

The fact that many bisexuals aren't taken seriously is frustrating, I know, but as for what makes a person truly bi, is really up to the individual. There's no set of codes or standards, and actually, Autumn had a point about it being parallel to a Witch. If you are a Witch in your heart, but never celebrate the full moons, are you a "real" Witch? If you are attracted to both men and women, but only sleep with one sex, are you a "real" bisexual? No one can judge that but you. And if anyone tries, feel free to put them in their place.

Yes, a lot of people experiment out of trendiness, and go back to their safe vanilla hetero lives, but if you're not one of these people, stand up for yourself at work, if you feel it's that important. This lesbian may have been badly hurt by a bisexual girl, because unfortunately, that happens often too (I've had my heart crushed by two bi gals, and I kept going back for more). She's just reacting out of cynicism and bitterness, so try not to let her bother you. I know it sucks, because we should all stick up for each other in this community, but that's how it is sometimes.

[instg8r]

i think a lot of ppl experiment with the same sex and i find nothing wrong w/ that whether they are doing it b/c it is the 'in' thing to do or to be cool or whatever --- i dont think those people should call themselves 'bisexual' i think that to truly have that label you would need to know that you are attracted to both sexes, would be willing to be in a relationship w/ either sex -- i consider myslelf bi b/c i am attracted to both, have been in relationships w/ both and have experienced 'heightened pleasure' w/ both --- i hate when i hear ppl say 'i used to be bisexual but now im straight' umm it doesnt work like that - it isn't a switch - but thats just my opinion i guess [wink]

[darqueangel]

Wolf, I can only speak for myself, but what makes me truly bi? Well I have been in serious relationships with both sexes. I've been married 3 times to men and commitment ceremonies with two women. (no not all at the same time :oke:: lol) Each relationship ended and I moved on.
To answer what makes me truly bi, when I'm with a man and nudge him and say Sweet Goddess will you look at the saddle on that filly! And I have been known to make a died in the wool fool of myself and just about obtain warp speed to catch up to said filly. And I've been with a bi-fem and went pop-eyed over some beasty bad boy and made sure she got a good look and did the warp speed thing to him as well. (and no, not when I'm in a serious relationship, only in an open relationship). So yeah I'm a true bi.
And as an aside, I usually only date lesbians, I've been with 2 bi-fems. I like to be the only snake in the grass. [lol] When I'm with a male I express my female side and with a woman my male side.

[Artemis_NYC]

Angel, you crack me up.
But I was the same way, when I was in high school, and still dating members of both sexes, figuring out who I was.

Eventually I stopped being the femme, even with the guys, and I would sit around with my boyfriend, drinking beer and watching football, and we realized something may be up, lol. As much as I actually wanted to be bisexual at the time, I had to face the fact that I really wasn't.

Ah, what a long strange trip it's been.

[storm]

Angel, Warp speed? dude you are funny as hell![lol] Have you been watching Star Trek again?
On the serious note, i'm straight, but i have many friends that are gay,bi, whatever. I feel if you like men you like men, if you like women, you like women, and if you go both ways, more power to you, you like both. i had one friend who's a queen, and my son saw he for the 1st time like that, but my son didn't recognize him as a woman, he's used to seeing him as a man , and the queen told me he knew he's liked men since he was the age as my son, so i don't think it's a phase thing at all.[smile][dancing-banana][dancing-banana][dancing-banana][dancing-banana][dancing-banana][dancing-banana]

[Guest]

This is my first time to the website, and I probably haven't really earned the right yet, but I thought I would chime in here anyway [cool] Â*I know there will always be debate about whether you can be truly bi or not and I think that the only people who really know the answer to this is people who are truly bi, and there probably isn't anything anyone could say that would convince nay-sayers that it is possible. Â*I happen to be one of the truly bi people and in my experience the most difficult part about it is, if you are gay, you don't have a choice, but if you are bi...you do. Â*So, when I was in a relationship with a woman, I couldn't say it wasn't out of choice, because it was. Â*I could have chosen to be with a man at any given time. Â*There was no way on earth I could have told my mom because she would never be able to understand in a million years why I would choose to be harrassed and ridiculed when I could just as easily chosen a man and been free from that. Â*She would have a much easier time understanding it if I was completely gay...she isn't homophobic, but she wouldn't be able to understand chosing such a difficult, and many times dangerous, life. Â*So...I never told anyone in my family. The only time I allowed myself to be in a serious (not casual) same sex relationships was when I was living out of state where I was sure no one in my family would ever find out. Â*I was a total coward about it. Â*And, I did end up with a man in the long run, because it was easier. Â*I love him...I'm in love with him, and I wouldn't change my current life for the world, but honestly, if I had had the courage way back when, I would have ended up with a woman...who I was in love with. Â*I'm not actually saying it is easier for gay people...far from it. Â*Its just a different set of difficulties. Â*Sorry for the long newbie post Â*

Cheers,

Shii

[Artemis_NYC]

Don't be sorry, Shi, we love fresh meat!

Ok, maybe a bisexual can technically choose which sex to date or marry or whatever, but will still be attracted to both. You can't choose who you're attracted to. You can only choose how to act on it.