Trully Bi?

[Magpiebard]

Its funny. Put me in a room with good looking, intelligent, funny guys and I get more and more feminine. I talk softer, walk - well my bf calls it swooshier, so I'll go with that, and I read to all who see me as totally straight. Put me in a room with lovely, intelligent, funny women? Different story. You'd think I was strictly a lesbain. (Yes, I admit to the Xena fixation as well. <hangs head&gt

I think bi is a state that most people are born as, and society builds the pens that most people end up in.

When asked anymore, I simply say I like people. I'm not drawn to (relationship wise anyway. Lust is a WHOLE other ball of wax! [oops]) a persons genitals. Those, one would think are for the most part covered when you first meet them! (As I don't spend a lot of time on nude beaches) Its the personality, the mind, the heart, that certain something that draws me. After I find someone with all that, then I get the fun of unwrapping my present to see what's inside.

'Course. Sean Connery and Angelina Jolie dont have to talk if they walk into my bedroom. Well, maybe Sean, but he doesn't have to expand my mind!

[highmoon]

Brad Pitt has always been my fantasy man...but Angelina Jolie is to die for! So there is no DOUBT in my mind that I would HAPPILY slide into bed between the both of them in a HOT minute and enjoy every second in heaven!


Dance if no one were watching, Sing as if no one were listening, And live every day as if it were your last! Irish Proverb

[Eurynome]

your lesbian co-worker who refuses to acknowledge your identity must be insecure about hers on some level. of course bi people truly exist!

the problem with this and so many other "identity" questions, is that we as a culture have our identities "in relation to" everyone else- so the people that are not falling into "opposite camps" get crap from both sides.

what are men? well, they are not women. OK- well, then, how do transexuals, genderqueers, and other intersexed & transgendered folk fit in?

what are lesbians? well, they aren't straight. so how do bisexuals fit in?

what i am trying to say is this- your identity is YOURS. claim it proudly and divorce it from other people's insistance that it fall neatly into their (overly simplistic) worldview...

[brothernature]

(Lookie here, more fresh meat)

I believe you can be truely bisexual. From what i understand gay people are only arroused by people of the same sex, and the opposite sex does'nt really appeal to them. My boyfriend is like that.

As for me, i can get arroused by either. I'm not saying this all you can fall on to tell, but im sure its a major point.

Just because you are bisexual doesnt mean you can't swing one way more than the other. Poeple that know about me call me gay and i don't really like it, cause i'm not, i'm bisexual.

Unfortunately being bisexual can be a turn off for heteral or homo sexuals, as it is for my bf, but he's gonna have to live with it, cause i am who i am and nothing more, and nothing less.

What can i say i don't discriminate, even by sex. You are human, that is all you are to me. I might like being gay, and i like my bf, but i don't really like getting all into it to be honest with you ( if u know what i mean ) But then again i'm not a real sexual person, i am virgin and i am happy, i personally dont think i need sex. I havnt done anything with a girl however so that is something i think i should have looed into before i chose to get into a serious realtionship, but oh well.

Anyways,(getting a little off topic) if you are truely atracted to both sexes, then u are truely bisexual.

[fate]

how do you know you are bi if you are a virgin? [confused][rolleyes][grin]

[brothernature]

Not everything depends on sex....or at least that is my belief

[Artemis_NYC]

fate wrote:
how do you know you are bi if you are a virgin?

My best friend used to get that question a lot. I can counter it with a question of my own; does sexual orientation form only after the loss of virginity? You have to be attracted to someone before you sleep with them. How do straight people know they're straight? Do they hop into bed with someone, and say "Okay, that was great, I guess I'm heterosexual". lol

You know who you are attracted to, plain and simple. When you're twelve years old and your heart starts thudding away in your chest, your hormones start screaming, your loins tingling, your mouth runs dry, I could go on forever, lol.

[fate]

I really am not sure how you would know if you were bi....I took info from some gay male friends that said that they dated women that they were attracted to but when it came to sex did not like it ~

Artemis....what you described to me was knowing when you are young that you are gay? Do you know you are bi then too? I am not bi so I really dont know.....[grin]

"your heart starts thudding away in your chest, your hormones start screaming, your loins tingling, your mouth runs dry, I could go on forever, lol. "

and and and.......and......

[lol]

[brothernature]

Yea, what Artemis said, was actually gonna say the same thing but i was beat to it.

[fate]

brothernature wrote:
Not everything depends on sex....or at least that is my belief

brothernature....please dont take this personally ~ I am not bi so I ask questions to understand...that is why I asked if you could know you are bi being a virgin? I would think that sex would be a determining factor due to the comments my friends said about the attraction being there but when they did have sex it did not do it for them ~ I actually am curious what makes people *tick* so to speak....so I am sorry if you felt you had to defend yourself ~ It was just a question....[grin]